Taking up on the previous article Love. We can now see that real love is not quite within our human grasp.
The reason the previous article was built around refining the notion of love is because in many tarot readings request we get in respect of relationships, the querent uses the word love in the question, e.g. does he still loves me?. Now as we demonstrated in our previous article, the notion of love for the querent and the notion of love for the reader is bound to be different when it concerns intimacy.
This is an important point because the Reader is making an interpretation which is influenced by subjectivity. What the Reader reads in the cards is her/his understanding of love in the context of the card, not he querent’s understanding of love. So the Reader is giving the interpretation in a certain degree and the Querent is receiving it in a different degree. This can be witty, especially when it concerns matters that can disturb our psyche at a very profound level.
This is also the reason why we consider the notion of soulmate and twin flame harmful. The wrong it can cause to the psyche are in some cases irreparable and even leads to distressing reactions.
Therefore when asking a tarot reading for a subject matter relating to an intimate relationship, avoid the word love. Use the word affinity, e.g. Asking about the status of a relationship which has been going for three years to consider whether to deepen the relationship or not:
– …does he/she loves me enough for me to commit farther?
– ….will the marriage work?
– …based on how things are going between us, will our affinities deepen?
First way – …does he/she loves me enough for me to commit farther?
If your understanding of love and that of the Reader are near, then you have a good chance of getting a right answer if the direction of the question is correct in your case. Meaning: he/she might not love you enough now BUT within a deepen relationship, the bond may strengthen, or the reverse might be true.
Second way – A….will the marriage work?. It will work may mean that one amongst the partner will have to sacrifice more than the other. So we can see it is not a good way to ask about a potential relationship.
There are many other wrong ways along the same line, I think you get the idea what we are getting at
Whereas, the third way of asking the question will open the door for the tarot to provide clear guidance in the given situation. Think about it, if affinities deepens, then the bond deepens and whatever lows that the relationship encounters along its journey will most likely be overcome successfully.
What we are trying to demonstrate is that often today, questions about make or break relationships are centered around a subjective notion of a word used out of its proper context. Whereas if we carefully chooses our words, like affinity we are guaranteed to receive a clear guidance from the tarot.
The astrology also reflects the affinities and discordance between two individuals. But as we pointed out in the article A New Approach to Divination, astrological aspects are very often at odds with the reality becasue of imbalances caused by mundane problems or unresolved karmic issues. So a good tarot reading is your best bet. Especially with an average of 45% divorce rate in developed countries, it does not cost much to have a tarot reading by the side (don’t tell your future partner though…).
Now, in respect of soulmate, we are categorical, this is pure human adulteration of the Mathematics of the Divine. Just think about it, if the idea of soulmate is real, then God purportedly send us to Gaia among seven billion peers with a probability of 1 in 3.5 billion to find our soulmate (considering one is hetero or gay, if someone is bisexual the probability is 1 in 7 billion……). We know that God works in mysterious ways, but this…. it looks more like a money making business and the sad thing is that it affects people who are emotionally vulnerable and certainly with a lot of imbalances in their energy fields, that they would believe such fantasist ideas.
We do form some strong bonds with other souls over lifetimes on Gaia and other planets and planes, and that is why, at times, we may be strongly attracted to another individual. At other times it can be that the two souls are at more so same level of spiritual progression and there is a natural understanding and attraction which comes from that. There is also the situation where a toxic past life relation will not end and this is misinterpreted as concordance affinity. There are so many possibilities that the precision of the reading rest on the intuitive potential of the Reader.
So in practice, a relationship reading cannot be based solely on trivial questions, this will generate trivial answers. In some cases where there is abuse by one of the partners, the matter is clear cut. But most of the time only a proper framework will provide the effective guidance on a relationship issue. A quick reading will provide an insight on the situation of the relationship, and a full reading will properly assess the way forward for that relationship. A major decision cannot be taken solely considering present situation and possible outcomes, it has to go deeper for the Reading to be of use to the Querent. 100% of the time both parties will have their share of responsibility for the relationship to work.
Remember, we are spiritual beings having a human experience, the reason is God’s will. It is by His benevolence that we enjoy the pleasures offered by Gaia. Now, how do we do this in today’s society is a different issue, but there are ways to be in harmony and living in a technologically advanced society. But that is for a different article.
We will end this article on this note: If you can love yourself unconditionally, you will benefit from all the energies provided by your astrological aspects (there are no good or bad aspects), and you will be fully alive. That type of person does not need a partner in life, because that person is in love with life. When two such individuals meets and decide to form a relationship, then the magic is euphoric, the only obstacles they may face would be of karmic nature, but they usually get a lot of help from the Divine to resolve that little matter.
Our next article will address the issue of Karma.
Bye for now
Lots of love
Peace to all of you.
